Although there doesn’t exist a sure way to tell if your guy friend has romantic feelings for you unless he pursues you or makes a direct move on you, there are some clues that can help you figure out if he sees you only as a friend or something more.
If you have ever found yourself in a situation where you were not certain of the feelings your male friend has for you, here are 11 signs he likes you more than a friend.
1. His body language
If you are wondering whether your guy friend likes you, the first thing you should be paying attention to is his body language.
Sometimes, non-verbal, body language signs can tell us a lot about a person’s intentions and that is definitely something you should focus on. If your male friend is attracted to you, he won’t be able to control his body when he’s around you.
He’ll simply have a subconscious, uncontrollable urge to get closer to you, to lean on you and to touch you whenever he’s talking to you. When he talks to you, he’ll attempt to hold your hand, touch your face or rub your shoulder.
Although physical contact is nothing unusual in close friendships, you’ll just see that this guy never misses an opportunity to touch you and that he is probably doing it without being aware.
He will probably playfully tease you because that is one of the ways to have any kind of body contact with you. Whenever you are with a group of people, this guy will make sure to sit next to you, so the two of could be closer.
2. He looks at you
They don’t say that eyes are the windows to the soul without a reason.
Despite the fact that your guy friend is probably hiding his true emotions for you, his eyes will reveal a lot about his feelings, no matter how hard he tries to fight it.
It is perfectly normal for the person who is talking to you to make eye contact while doing so, but this guy will do more than that. He’ll look at you in a not so friendly way which will show all the passion he feels for you.
It is possible for him to stare at you for a little bit longer than necessary because he is trying to read the emotions you may be hiding through your eyes.
Another possibility is that he looks away whenever you two have eye contact and that he shifts his eyes anxiously to escape your look. This means that he is nervous around you and that he is afraid that you’ll read right through them.
This is definitely one of the signs he likes you, but is afraid of rejection.
3. He makes excuses to be alone with you
If you have a male friend, it is likely that the two of you usually hang out within a group of people of both genders. But, if this guy has some not so friendly feelings for you, he’ll be frustrated by the fact that he can’t seem to spend any quality time alone with you.
This means that he can’t do anything to stand out of the crowd because he doesn’t have the chance to persuade you into looking at him the same way he looks at you.
Therefore, he’ll do everything just to spend more time with you because he knows he feels good whenever he is with you. He’ll make different excuses to talk to you or to see you without anyone else around because he sees that as a chance to make some closer contact with you and maybe even to win you over.
This guy will arrange dates just for the two of you. However, he won’t label those get-togethers as dates but as a friendly gathering.
Therefore, if there is a guy in your group of friends who goes out of his way to spend some one on one time with you, it is definitely one of the not so subtle signs he likes you more than a friend.
4. He treats you specially
If you are suspicious whether a close friend of yours sees your relationship as more than a friendship and if you think whether he wants to move it to the next level, you’ll get your answer simply by comparing his behavior to all the other girls around him and his behavior to you.
If he is especially kind and polite to you and if he treats you differently than any other girl that is a part of your group, it is definite that he feels something more for you. Of course, it is also possible that he just appreciates you as a friend more than anyone else, but there is something that can help you figure this dilemma out.
If this guy tells a story or expresses his opinion about some matter, does he always waits for your reaction? If he does, he is definitely in love with you.
For him, your opinion and reaction are the only things that matter because he hopes to have your approval regarding everything he says or does.
5. He tries to make you laugh
Most men know that the best way through every girl’s heart is to attract her with humor.
This guy knows it too, so he always puts an extra effort just to make you smile and laugh. Even when you just giggle at something he said, it lights up his entire face and it is more than enough for him. It is clear that he wants you to always have a good time around him. You two have been friends for a long time, and he knows most of the things about you and one of them is your sense of humor.
Therefore, he always goes out of his way just to tell you something he knows you’ll find interesting. The same is when you are talking about something funny.
He is the first one to laugh and you see that everything you say is interesting for him, amusing him more than it really should. Besides, you’ve noticed that he has this special smile reserved only for you.
6. He remembers everything about you
No matter how close friends you are with some guy, he will rarely remember little things that are important to you.
That doesn’t mean that he doesn’t think of you as important—it is just part of male nature. But, if a guy likes you, he will remember everything about you, including all the smallest details. He will never forget your birthday or other dates important for you.
He will know what your favorite movie, color or song are and he will notice every little detail you post on social media. And he will never miss the opportunity to surprise you, using this knowledge.
He may buy you tickets for when your favorite band is playing in town or he will wish you a happy birthday at midnight sharp. He knows things regarding your personality, but also things about your physical appearance because he has spent a lot of time observing you (but not in a creepy kind of way).
Therefore, if you change something about your appearance, i.e. if you have a new dress or you did something different with your hair, be sure that this guy will notice it.
7. He is interested in what you have to say
When your male friend has caught some deeper feelings for you, he’ll pay extra attention to you.
It is perfectly normal for your guy friends to get bored whenever you talk about boys, hair, makeup and all the other girly stuff. But, not this man.
He will never find you boring and he will be interested in everything you have to say. He will never think of your problems as being foolish and he will always help you with them.
This guy will put an extra effort into getting to meet the real you and sometimes, he will know more about you than all of your female friends. This is not the case because you tell him more than you tell them.
This is so because he actually listens to you and thinks about you and everything that is going on in your life. He will be the first one to notice when you are extra happy or when you are going through a rough period in life.
8. He is interested in your love life
It is perfectly normal to talk to all of your friends about your love life, including your male friends. But, if a guy is not interested in you as a woman, he will probably hear you out, give you a piece of his mind regarding the subject and that is it.
He will rarely mention this topic again until you bring it up. But, if you have a male friend that is especially interested in your love and dating life, it can be one of the signs he likes you more than a friend.
He wants to know if there is someone you like, and if you are in a relationship, he wants to know every little detail about it. On top of everything, he never behaves like that when it comes to other people’s relationships—he only shows extra interest in your love life.
He is probably hurt by the fact that you are seeing other guys, but he can’t help it—he wants to know everything about it. He does this because he is trying to find out whether he stands a chance.
He wants to know if your heart is already taken or you are just getting involved in casual flings. Also, he wants to know about the type of guys you fall for.
If you are in a relationship, your male friend will ask you a lot of questions about it because he hopes that it will fall apart sooner or later, and he wants to be there for you when it happens because he sees it as his chance.
9. He is jealous of your boyfriends
No matter how close of a relationship you have with your male friend, it is unusual for him to be jealous of the guy or guys you’ve been seeing.
Of course, he needs to be realistic and tell you if he doesn’t have a good opinion of them or of the way they’ve been treating you, and that is more than enough. But, if you have a friend that is always talking trash about all of your boyfriends and if he thinks none of them deserve to be with you, he is probably in love with you.
If he constantly implies that you deserve better, it is probable that he is trying to tell you that you should try being with him. This man knows that he doesn’t have any real right to show you his jealousy, but he just can’t hide it, no matter how hard he tries.
10. He is protective
One of the reasons to have a male best friend is having someone to always look out for you. But, be careful—his protectiveness can also be one of the signs he likes you more than a friend.
It is in all men’s natures to protect the women they love and this guy simply feels obligated to protect you and help you through life. That means that he will always be the first one to take your side whenever you are in the middle of an argument with someone and that he will try his best not to let anyone hurt you in any possible way.
When there is a guy who is causing you pain and not treating you right, this man will always serve as your protector.
When the two of you are together, he will get angry when someone tries to make a move on you and he’ll always make sure everyone around you treats you with the respect you deserve.
11. He takes care of you
Although this guy is very much aware that he’s been friend zoned and that it is possible that he doesn’t stand a chance with you, he’ll always make sure to take care of you.
If your friend loves you deeply, he will always make sure your needs are satisfied, without even hoping that the two of you might end up as a couple. Your well-being means everything to him and he truly wants you to be happy, even if that happiness doesn’t include him.
But, please make sure never to take advantage of his unconditional love for you because that is something priceless. If you can’t love him back, the least you can do is to appreciate everything this man is doing for you.