I didn’t even believe in love at first sight. How? How can you possibly know someone enough to love them without having any direct knowledge of who they are as a person? It doesn’t make sense. It’s merely attraction on overload… You look at someone, they get you going in all the right ways, you’re feeling things in all the right places, endorphins start rushing around, and BAM, you think you’re in love.
But you can’t possibly be in love… Or can you? Until it happened to me… I would have said no. Impossible. It doesn’t make sense. It really doesn’t, even now, knowing what I know, and loving how I love. I still can’t explain how I came to love him from the moment he said, “Hello.” All I do know for sure, is that I did. And every moment since has been a series of confirmations that love at first sight is not only possible, but the best damn thing that has ever happened to me!
So how can you tell if it’s love at first sight? You can’t! What you can do is go ahead and trust your own instincts. If you feel it, follow that feeling and see where it takes you. You might end up wrong but you might end up happily ever after. Here are just a few signs that you can watch out for along the way to confirm for you what you already know.
1. You feel like you’ve known each other forever.
Maybe it’s because you have? If it feels like your souls have been aligned since the beginning of time, it’s possible that they have. You may not know exactly who this person is today, or the specific events that have led to this meeting. But that feeling that you have been with this person before and now that you are with them again, you feel complete – it’s okay to trust that.
2. You don’t seem to get sick of each other.
Whether it’s love, lust, or infatuation, who cares?! Enjoy it. Spend all of your time getting to know everything about each other and discovering all the things you have in common, and all the things that make you different. Figuring out what attracted you to each other and finding out there is so much more to it is awesome.
3. He makes you feel safe.
Everything is new and exciting, but familiar at the same time. That little voice in the back of your head that always tells you when you’re about to do something stupid? Suddenly she is silent. She has no red flags to throw up, no tales of caution to whisper in your ear. You start to wonder if she’s okay… She is. She just doesn’t need to tell you anything. The instinct that you have found something real and wonderful is spot on. Trust yourself, and if you immediately trust him, there’s probably a good reason for that.
4. Even when you don’t agree, you still respect each other.
The first time you don’t agree can easily snap you out of your reverie and leave you questioning your life choices. If it doesn’t, that is a very good sign. How you are able to handle disagreements is a fundamental marker of what kind of relationship you will have. If you find yourselves trying to understand each other’s differences and work through them, you are on a lasting track.
5. Your friends and family all approve.
If the people closest to you can see what you see, what else are you looking for? Cupid is not going to show up and give you an actual sign, so at some point you’ve gotta stop looking for one. This is not to say if your people aren’t on board right away, it’s not love… It very well may be and they just need a little time to see what you see. But if they see it as soon as you do, that’s outta the ballpark!