Statistically speaking, there are only 10% of men who fall into the category of being an alpha male. Thinking about it, it does makes sense. See, alpha men are very dominant and if there were more of them, then you’d see men constantly grabbing each others throats and all of them trying to be the ‘bosses’.
So, there is this small number of men who are considered to be able to be leaders of the pack. An alpha man is the type of person who makes thing happen in his life, so he runs his own business, his family, and his life. There is such a small percentage of them because the world can only sustain so many leaders.
Plenty of women are searching and actually wanting a man who’s going to be in charge, a man who’s going to take a lead and a man who actually knows what he wants to do in his life. But most importantly, women are sick and tired of men who have no idea how to treat women or how to love. They are sick of confused guys.
With alpha men, the story is a bit different. They are not indecisive and they know perfectly what they want. They aren’t settling for anything in this world and their criteria are pretty high. The perks of such a personality are that they aren’t running from love or romance, either. They’re down for it, but only for the real deal. The catch is for women to know how to win the heart of an alpha male since not everyone can do that.
There are a few traits alpha men look for in their women and we bring you the list of the ultimate 11 ways to win the heart of an alpha male!
Know Who You’re Dealing With
Psychology has stated a few times that we mainly attract those who reflect our own personalities. If you think about it, you’ll see that all your exes have a pattern or something that ties them together. Think about all the boys your friends dated. In most cases, there is at least one common trait that can be found in every single one of them.
So if you want to win the alpha’s heart, try to see what it is that all his exes have in common. This way you’ll discover what it is that attracted him to you and that will become your biggest tool in gaining the upper hand in this relationship. Perhaps it’s your positive attitude, your charm or perhaps some physical traits that got him hooked. Whatever it may be, knowing about it will probably help you in keeping your man interested in you.
Think about alpha men and their appearances. Regardless of their ages, they always look good and they never stop investing in themselves.
That’s why it is a good idea for you to make sure that you look good in each situation. Never stop investing in yourself and try to look good for yourself as much as you’re trying for your man. That will keep the attraction going. Never allow yourself to discard your appearance after you’ve been dating for a long time or to get lazy in a relationship. In this case, instead of winning his heart you’ll be pushing him away.
You know well that alphas are always on top of the game and that’s the same thing they expect from their women. He seeks a woman who’ll challenge him and all his senses on a daily basis, and that’s why you’ll need to take care of your appearance more than you would with any other guy.
Allow Him To Impress You
There is nothing more than an alpha loves than to see people admiring him. He never talks empty and he actually has something to impress you with, so let him. Give him space to tell you his story. You won’t need to act impressed because this type of man will truly awaken the emotions of admiration in you.
Once he has you impressed, you don’t need to try to hide it. Actually seeing you admiring him and the things he does will boost his ego and make him feel good about himself. The more he feels pleased around you, the more you’ll stay high in his eyes and the more he’ll want to be around you—and you know that wanting to be more around you will also give you more space to impress him.
Make sure you’re also adding an extra value to your relationship, too. Make sure you’re not one of those codependent women. Do your best to do well in life and always aim high. This way, you’ll be sharing the same interests as your alpha man.
Don’t Allow Him To Possess You
Playing his doll and nodding to everything he says will speak poorly about you and will bore him sooner than you like to think. No sane person enjoys the company of a person who doesn’t have her own opinion or who doesn’t have her wish list. Nobody likes a person who adjusts to everyone’s opinion.
If you allow him to dictate absolutely everything in your relationship, then he won’t stay long in that relationship whatsoever. Not only won’t you be able to win his heart, but you’ll also push him away with your behavior.
Don’t be afraid to make your own decisions. Don’t be afraid to speak up or tell him what you actually want. Regardless of his status, you also have a say in your relationship and the opportunity to show him you are your own ‘man’—don’t miss it.
Find Common Ground
Finding common ground, especially when you are in a relationship with an alpha male, is of utmost importance. If there is one truth it would be that alpha men are never surrounded by one person only. An alpha man despises clingy people and he’ll never devote his whole day to a single person no matter how much you mean to him. So be aware that you won’t be doing everything together.
That’s why it’s a good idea to find things you both like doing together. Try to find something that amuses you both, some activities that you’ll both enjoy. This way he’ll constantly be reminded how it’s fun to be around you and if nothing else, he’ll initiate more dates and try to steal more time from you.
Let Him Think He’s Leading
If you get anything from this, it is the fact that alpha men are born leaders. They are not followers or team players whatsoever. That’s why your man will want to take charge in most of the situations. It’s just the way his personality is and there isn’t much to do about it but to actually let him think he’s leading.
Give him ideas in a way he’ll think they actually came from him and then support him by saying how brilliant they are. Even if he takes all the credit, you’ll be the one who knows where they actually came from.
Don’t Give Him Everything At Once
It’s not interesting to play the game if you know all the cards in your opponents’ hands. It just makes the game easier and you eventually get fed up with it. That’s why you shouldn’t show him everything you’ve got at once. You should keep it interesting.
Revealing one thing at the time will give him the idea that you have plenty of good sides and that you never cease to amaze him. And he’ll feel lucky to have found a girl like you. It will be an easy way to his heart.
Don’t Be A People Pleaser
If you’ve studied the alpha personality, it has become clear to you that alphas never do things for other people or because other people expect them to. They never waste their time pleasing others since they can do better things than that such as following their dreams and similar.
Not only won’t alphas devote their lives to pleasing people, but they will not want to have anything to do with those who can’t say ‘no’ to others. They will not want to spend their time with people who neglect himself for others—who are most likely to forget all the favors you have ever done for them once they don’t need you.
That being said, devote your time to yourself and people who actually matter. Devote your time to making yourself great and to people whom you love. Be selfish with your time and give it only to those who are going to appreciate it and those who actually deserve it. Seeing you’re smart with your time will be something that will lift you up in the eyes of your alpha man.
By being smart, we include everything from smart talk to making smart decisions in your life. Just think about it: would an alpha ever want to engage in a relationship with a woman who has no ambitions or with whom he can’t have intellectual conversations? “No” is the only appropriate answer here.
If you want to truly win the heart of an alpha male, never bother him with the story about how your nail broke or the three-hour coffee you had with your girlfriends where you gossiped about everything and everybody. This is something that alphas consider repelling and this is definitely not the way to their hearts.
Whatever alphas do in life, they do with a high drive. This is something everyone should follow them in. Whatever you like or choose to do in life, make sure you do it wholeheartedly. Make sure that all your dreams are followed by this intense desire to succeed. This kind of woman leaves alphas speechless. No wonder they fall mostly for women who are passionate.
What means more to alphas than good looks is good confidence. Confidence is simply something we all get attracted to and it’s something they can’t escape either. Just think about it: which man wouldn’t be attracted to a woman who feels good in her own skin and who’s proud of her accomplishments?
So whatever you do, own it. Whichever move you make, make sure you are confident while doing it. People see us the way we portray ourselves to them, so know that alphas will always want to have a woman who’s on good terms with herself next to them.