I’m someone who’s been hurt. It happens to a lot of people, but not everybody decides to face their fear and give love a chance again.
After being manipulated, rejected, and lied to, I wanted to give up on love. But I didn’t.
As crazy as it seems, all those negative experiences have made me believe there’s more to life than pain. Through every painful situation, I’ve grown stronger.
So many times, I was convinced that something was right for me only to learn it was something I wanted for the wrong reasons and never actually needed.
I’m proud of my ability to learn from my mistakes. I’m proud of myself for never giving up on people despite the things they did to me. Including my past lovers.
I don’t want to let it break me. I want to stay vulnerable and love again because I know I deserve love.
I know how much I can love somebody else too. All this pain has made me understand every little thing in life even more. I don’t want to let my love go to waste.
The only thing is – I will need a special person who will understand me and have the patience I need.
So how does one go about loving a person that’s been hurt? There are a few things to keep in mind.
Allow me enough time to heal. Healing is a process, and for most people, it doesn’t end in a moment.
Sometimes it takes years, but that doesn’t mean it should make our relationship any worse.
The process of healing is great for knowing each other on a deep level. When you’re faced with a person’s deepest fears and accept them nevertheless, that’s when you know you love them for real.
Let me know that you listen to me. Listening is so important for people who have been put down constantly. I need to know you care for me.
That’s one of the easiest ways to show a person you care for them – just listen to them.
Be honest with me. Anyone who’s been lied to knows the struggle of trusting again. I promise I won’t compare you to him, just be honest with me at all times.
There’s no need for white lies either, everything can be understood when said with respect.
Tell me the things you love about me often. I don’t want to come off as needy, but just saying out loud what you already think will make a big difference.
I will feel safer and happier. Talking about feelings isn’t going to make you seem weak. On the contrary, it will make you more attractive. There’s nothing more attractive than a guy who openly loves his girl.
I need you to be patient. I promise it will be worth it. If you see me going through some tough period, don’t run away. That’s the time I need you the most.
If you stick with me when I’m going through my worst, I will stick with you forever.
Don’t try to make me be something I’m not. Accept me as I am. Messy, emotional, sometimes scared, but always ready to love.
No matter what happens, I will always love being human – that means I will allow myself to feel everything I need to feel.
I will always let you be everything you need to be too. Together we can go through every fear and struggle we have and make our bond so strong, it lasts forever.
Accept my past and leave it where it is. I’m content with my past and I don’t want to change it. You shouldn’t be upset with it either.
Every day is a new day, and we’re changing and evolving all the time. That’s why we should focus on our future.
What I want is the purest and deepest kind of love you can only find in girls who suffered the most – girls like me.
Now I want to be the girl who loves the most. I want to be the one you keep forever.