We have all heard the good old saying that “If someone loves you, they will fight for you”. But there are times when circumstances are so overwhelming that it forces two people in love apart. This statement casts doubt on the love that was shared just because a decision to let go of the relationship has been made due to circumstances.
But is it all true that fighting for someone is the only form of love?
I do not think so.
The circumstances surrounding you can be so overwhelming that you are not able to give your all in a relationship. As much as you want them to be with you through your difficult times, but a part of you knows that you are selfish to do so. You feel guilty for not being able to give as much to the relationship as the other person. How can you continue to give to someone else when you are so empty inside?
Love is putting others’ needs above your own. Sometimes you let someone go because you know that you are not able to give them the love you think they deserve. Because the happiness of the person you love matters so much more than your own happiness. Because you want them to be happy, even if it is without you.
So as much as you love someone, you may have to make the difficult decision to let them go. Sometimes it takes more courage to walk away from a relationship that is all that you ever wanted. How hard it is to say goodbye to the best thing that has happened to you.
And the sad truth is life do not work like fairy tales. Happy ever afters do not come easily and there are so many other things to work through in life. Long distance, depression, work stress, family issues, chronic illnesses and having too many things on your plate etc. – they are all circumstances in life that may throw a spanner in your relationship. These are real issues that may be difficult to overcome and it can take a toll on a person. Life can be hard and sometimes love alone is not enough for things to work out the way we would have loved it to.
You choose to let go now before things could potentially take a worse turn and you end up being bitter with each other. You let go with love, in the hope that one day, when whatever circumstances that kept both of you apart no longer stand; there is a good chance to continue from where the relationship left off. It is a way to preserve the goodwill in the relationship so that if fate allows a second chance, the both of you would have a good shot at making it work. When both of you are finally at the same place and being able to put in your 100% and create your happily ever after together.
And when that day comes, it will affirm what you have known all along.
Letting go is an act of love too.