I’m sure you’ve all heard people say you should leave a relationship when it hits a rough patch.
Suddenly everyone feels invited to tell you shouldn’t tolerate this or that.
It’s true that we shouldn’t tolerate abuse, but sometimes it’s just a rough patch.
It happens every once in a while, and it’s a test for a relationship.
Do you think your partner wants to change? Do you feel unhappy with your partner or the current circumstances? Think about it.
No relationship is perfect all the time. In fact, life isn’t perfect at all.
Of course, that means that you’ll have trouble at some or other point in your relationship as well.
The thing is, you’ve chosen the person you’re with to help you through the good times and the bad.
You’ve picked someone you want to be with even when life gets hard. There’s a reason for that.
You’ve chosen them because of who they are, so try to remember this – the reason you fell in love with them in the first place.
It’s kind of ironic to forget or take for granted the people we care about the most, like we often do with our partners.
Sometimes they let you down or don’t react how you want them to, but hey, they’re a person with their own fears, hopes, and obstacles.
It’s not fair to blame each other the minute things get rough.
Instead, it’s better to decide to stick to your relationship and overcome despite everything.
If you can do that, you have something real. You have a real relationship. You have your true life partner.
I know it might seem hopeless, but if you feel the love in your heart, it’s possible to rebuild relationships.
You can change things that don’t serve you. You can put in the effort together.
The most common problem in a relationship is a lack of communication and misunderstanding.
Communication is the base of all relationships. A strong relationship needs strong communication.
Insist on understanding your partner completely.
Try to understand what’s hidden behind their fears, what motivates them, and what they want to accomplish.
Don’t let one or two difficult situations determine your relationship or marriage.
Everything is transient but true love. That means that the bad times will pass but love will stay.
When you see the person at their worst – and you still choose to accept them – that’s love.
When your person does the same for you – that’s love.
Don’t accept anything less. You deserve to be accepted as you are, with all your shades and colors.
The most important thing is to admit your own mistakes and have the patience to understand the mistakes of your partner.
There’s nothing more rewarding than looking back at all the tough times and feeling pride and a sense of accomplishment and love for your partner.
Those times are what bring you even closer together.
Love needs constant work.
However, that work becomes a joy when the goal is mutual, and when you both feel like you’re making progress towards a better future.
With time, that work will become something you do gladly.
The obstacle will start to fade away and you will see your relationship flourish.
Don’t give up on love. Just wait for the rain to stop so you can experience the sunshine.
Couples who stay together through the worst are the ones who know they have their best friend and lover by their side.
They know that they truly have the person who cares for them from the bottom of their heart. Nothing that an occasional silly fight can ruin.
All relationships go through hell, but only real relationships get through it.
That’s why they’re rewarded with heaven and bliss later on.
Fairytales don’t exist, movie relationships don’t exist – but your own unique love story does.
Choose to make it a good one.