Some see the clock ticking at midnight as a new opportunity to make something out of themselves.
A chance to finally hit the gym, to pass that final exam they’ve been holding off forever or to say a final goodbye to that on and off toxic relationship which has lasted far too long.
Listen, I’m not here to tell you what you should do, how to start running your life or to attack you for never sticking to your New Year’s resolutions.
I’m here just to give you my one and only piece of advice: to make 2020 count as much as possible. To ask you to make it memorable and unforgettable.
Let’s be real; how many years of your life have you wasted up until now? How much time did you spend on the wrong people, wrong choices and toxic situations?
Well, isn’t it about time for this practice to change? Isn’t it about time to take matters into your own hands and move from this dead spot?
This might sound depressing but none of us has the luxury to keep on taking our lives for granted.
So, please, stop wasting your time because you don’t have an eternity left.
First and foremost, don’t waste 2020 on waiting for someone to change.
For your cheating partner to come to his senses and realize you’re the one, for that friend who is just using you for you to understand that you deserve more, for your parents to start seeing you as an adult, for your almost boyfriend to have the decency to put a label on your relationship and finally give you the honoring title of his girlfriend.
People don’t change—that’s a proven fact. And even if they do, they don’t do so for the sake of others.
Basically, you’re waiting for a miracle to happen while you’re putting your life on hold and while time passes by you. Stop. Just stop.
No more second chances, empty promises, imaginary deadlines or sleepless nights. Pack your bags and move away from those who are not giving you what you deserve.
Otherwise, you’ll catch yourself looking forward to another December in exactly the same situation you’re in now.
However, don’t waste this year trying to change yourself to please someone else either.
Becoming better is something you should do but that doesn’t include killing the personality you have and completely reinventing yourself just to be accepted or more loved.
Don’t spend 2020 mourning your failed love life.
Determine whether you’re ready to put yourself back in the dating pool or if you’ll stay single—whatever suits you better.
Remember that whoever left your life did so for a reason, so there is absolutely no point in grieving over your ex who wasn’t meant to be and carrying your emotional baggage into another year.
Instead, let 2020 be the year in which you’ll finally heal for good and leave all your past traumas behind.
Besides, your love life shouldn’t be the only thing to determine your happiness.
Don’t waste this year on the people who bring negativity and darkness into your life.
Be brave enough to cut ties with whoever doesn’t treat you right, puts you down or has a negative impact on your mental health.
Instead, focus on the ones who do you good and the ones who make you a better person. Most importantly—focus on yourself.
Don’t spend it trapped in your comfort zone, scared of change.
Don’t let your fears take over another year of your life, which will end in you regretting the fact that you didn’t take enough chances.
Remember: what is familiar isn’t necessarily better.
I know that jumping into the unknown might be scary but trust me when I tell you that it is much more exciting than you think.
Don’t waste another year without doing the things you like and without the people you love.
Even if you have an extremely tight schedule, you can never be too busy to pamper yourself.
Spend more time with your loved ones, go to the movies, listen to your favorite music. Do whatever makes you genuinely happy.
However, don’t spend it daydreaming either, without ever making an actual move to achieve your goals.
Make a concrete action plan and start thinking about the way to earn that promotion you’ve been dying to get, start saving money for the trip to a destination you’ve always wanted to visit, start learning that new language you’ve been interested in since forever…
Don’t waste it on resentment or grudges. Instead, learn how to let go and find the strength from within to forgive others and yourself.
Don’t get me wrong—this doesn’t mean that you’re required to welcome the ones who have done you harm back into your life.
Don’t forget what they did to you but leave the pain they caused you in 2019.
If necessary, accept even the apologies you didn’t get. Learn how to move on without seeking closure and finish the unfinished chapters of your life.
Don’t waste 2020 on being unhappy. Don’t spend 365 days playing mind games, analyzing, overthinking or worrying.
Yes, there are numerous life circumstances you simply can’t have any control over.
However, what you can do is affect the way you feel and think.
Therefore, put all your focus on that. Concentrate on finding inner peace and making yourself as happy as possible, regardless of everything going on around you.
Most importantly—don’t waste 2020 questioning your worth and thinking that you’re not enough.
Don’t let your insecurities hold you back anymore and start believing in yourself for a change.
Don’t waste it on loving others more than you love yourself. Take care of your body, heart and soul and make a difference!
Don’t leave anything to tomorrow. Take this chance now and make 2020 the best year of your life!
Actually, be smart enough not to waste another second of your life because seconds add up to minutes, which add up to hours, which add up to days, weeks and months and all of them make a full year.