You’ve been fooled by almost relationships one too many times in the past. You’re sick of doing all the work. You’re sick of making all the moves. You’re sick of wearing your heart on your sleeve and getting repaid with heartache. Even though it took you a while to learn your lesson, you’re finally finished chasing after people who aren’t showing the same amount of interest as you. The struggle isn’t worth it. Fighting for someone who won’t fight for you is pointless. You have a huge heart but you’re going to save it for someone who appreciates it. You’re only going to fight for people who care about the relationship as much as you do. This year, your standards have risen.
You’ve been guilty of chasing after people in the past, but now, you’re too mature for games. You aren’t going to run after someone. You aren’t going to let yourself get strung along by someone who refuses to admit whether they have feelings for you or whether they are only interested in something casual. You’re only looking for something serious. A label. A commitment. Even more importantly, you’re looking for someone authentic. Someone who will tell it to you straight from the start. Someone who will wear their heart on their sleeve. Someone who will let you know, right away, whether they’re interested in dating you or whether you’re on different pages.
You used to have a bad habit of chasing after people who didn’t deserve you because you were unable to see you were out of their league. You were convinced you would’ve been lucky to have them. But now that you’ve stopped letting your insecurities control you, now that you’ve been learning to love yourself, you’re not interested in chasing after anyone. You realize real love shouldn’t require games. It shouldn’t require you to text first every time and plan all the dates. You don’t want a partner. You want an equal. You want someone who is going to give you as much as you give them. Otherwise, you aren’t interested. You would rather stay single than get into an unbalanced, unstable, unhealthy relationship with someone who isn’t going to treat you right.
At the moment, a relationship isn’t at the top of your priorities list. It isn’t your main goal. Honestly, it isn’t even something you think about much. You’re too swamped. You’re not going to chase after someone because you’re too busy with other areas of your life. Your career. Your friendships. Your hobbies. Your self-care. You have more important things to do than waste your time chasing after someone who isn’t going to appreciate your effort, someone who is only going to hurt you in the end. Even though you would welcome love if it showed up on your doorstep, you aren’t going to chase it down anymore. You’re going with the flow. You’re letting what happens happen instead of trying to force things that weren’t meant to be.