Virgins are known to be critical of others, but they are even more critical of themselves. They always try to fix things that go wrong, and sometimes this can mean they are trying to find problems from the outset. They often have a high standard, which is not always realistic, so if they do not, they feel they are constantly failing.
They like having control over the things that happen to them and will blame themselves for things beyond their control, even though they logically realize that there is nothing they could have done.
How to Help: If you have a virgin in your life, assure her that, although not everything is under her control, that is not a reflection on her. Encourage them to pursue a goal – not in a cheesy way, but let them know that you recognize when they are doing well.
When she starts to talk about how bad things are, let her talk about it, but do not hesitate to remind her of the good. A virgin does everything she can to make things as good as possible, but also encourages her to rest and sometimes take a break.
Like virgins, ibexes like to have control over everything around them. They are very eager and hardworking, but they often go beyond their limits. They usually focus their self-esteem on succeeding in all walks of life, and when things do not seem to be going well in one area, they find it hard to think well about themselves.
They value their services and maintain a very high standard. They also tend to lean on the more pessimistic side to avoid disappointment, but this often leads to a negative view of themselves and the good things that happen to them.
How to Help: If you have an ibex in your life, see its accomplishments, but let it know what you like about it, not necessarily tied to those things. Capricorn does not ask for help, and he hates the idea that he’ll ever need her, but still, show him being near him, if he ever needs anything, can do wonders for him.
Remind him that he is more than his success. Support him and do not add oil to the fire. Motivate him to take a break from time to time, and that’s why he’s not weak.
Scorpions tend to have trust issues, which is very difficult. Although they often claim that they can only rely on themselves and exude much confidence, their lack of trust in others reflects a lack of confidence in themselves.
They question people when they do something questionable, but secretly wonder if they are the reason it actually happened. For him, it is important for people to take responsibility when they have done something bad, but they themselves do not have to.
They are a big man of hype for others, but they seldom treat themselves the same. They hold up walls to prevent anyone from meeting them, and even believe in the lie that no one can ever really love them the way they are.
How to Help: If you have a scorpion in your life then you need a lot of patience here. It can take a long time for a scorpion to open up to someone, and even then they are still very careful. Sometimes they’ll rush at you, but you just have to remind them that you do not want to hurt them, but that you care about them and want to be there for them – just be ready to be there.
Encourage him whenever he feels vulnerable. Remind him of how great he is and what you think and feel about him.
Fish are there for everyone else, except for themselves. They tend to believe that their problems and feelings are not as important as those of others. While this may make them a selfless friend, it can soon lead them to retreat, fearing that even their presence is a burden to those who love them.
They often tend towards partners and friends who are very lavish in their praise and affection and see this as proof that they are worthy to be in their environment. This is not a bad thing, but it can make the fish become dependent on these people instead of learning to give themselves something.
How to help: When you have a fish in your life, pay attention to the signals it gives. If you have a bad day, encourage her to talk to you about it. When they try to ignore things, gently remind them that you are behind them and that what you have to say is important to you.
Listen to them and offer your support. Often remind them of what you really like about them, not just on the surface.